Homemade Edible Finger Paint (No Cornstarch Needed)

Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art.

Today I wanted to try some finger painting with my little guy (20 months old). Unfortunately, I didn’t have any paint and I wasn’t able to go to the store to buy cornstarch or any of those other ingredients commonly used in homemade paint recipes.

Thankfully, I did have flour and food coloring.

So I simply mixed equal parts water and white flour (I did one cup of each) to make a nice painty paste. I put the water in the bowl first, then slowly mixed in the flour to avoid lumps. I divided up the paste into separate compartments of a toddler plate and then mixed in food coloring.

Voila! Easy homemade edible finger paint!

Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art. Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art.

We took our supplies outside and tried it out. Not bad!

Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art.

Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art.

Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art.

I liked this mixture because it was super easy for my little guy to wipe off himself and didn’t smear around on his skin like regular paint would. If he wanted it off, it came off. It also easily washed off with warm water after it had dried on his (and my) skin. Plus, it was no big deal if it got in his mouth. It’s just flour and water.

I wouldn’t recommend using this mixture for “serious” art. It became grainy and bubbly on the paper and wouldn’t be great for making detailed masterpieces. However, it’s perfect if you’re just looking to give your little one easy access to a low-maintenance, low-cost painting experience, which is exactly what I wanted.

Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art.

Remember to provide tools such as paintbrushes and sponges for kids who are nervous about touching the paint. Also, please, don’t encourage your kids to eat the paint. Just because it can be eaten doesn’t mean it should be eaten, especially if your kiddo has a gluten allergy or Celiac Disease.

Homemade edible finger paint using only water, flour, and food coloring. Perfect for introducing little ones to messy play and basic art.

What is your favorite homemade edible finger paint recipe?

BufferShare via email

Toddler Nature Walk

This morning my little walker and I needed to get out of the house and grab some fresh air on this crisp, clear day. So we grabbed the bucket that goes with his shape sorter (find here) and headed out for a 20-minute walk around our complex to go collect some autumn leaves.

toddlertoddlertoddler

toddlerOur little nature walk made it easy to practice a host of toddler-level developmental skills. We worked on safety awareness and following directions as he and I engaged in the age-old power struggle of holding Mama’s hand while walking across the parking lot. I pointed out leaves on the ground while he followed my gaze and went to pick them up (referred to as “joint attention“). And he practiced his fairly new skill of squatting to grab items from the ground and then standing back up without losing his balance.

toddlerYou can go on a nature walk with an older toddler and challenge them to only look for one type of object (like leaves), or you could challenge them even further by encouraging them to find two or more types of objects on your walk (leaves, flower petals, pine needles) and then place them in separate bags or buckets based on category. It’s a fun and natural way to introduce the concepts of matching, sorting, and same/different while helping them expand their vocabulary and getting a bit of fresh air and exercise in the process!

toddler

BufferShare via email

How to play with your baby on an exercise ball

Playing with babies on an exercise ball is a fun way to help them strengthen postural muscles necessary for the development of motor skills. It’s also an easy way to provide them with more opportunities for movement and sensory input (especially if they seek movement of their head a lot or you have limited space).

Depending on how old they are, you can play with them by laying them on their tummy or sitting them on their bottom while you roll, rock, and gently bounce them on the ball. Make sure you’re safe with them by having a good hold on their midsection (between hips to armpits), stabilizing the ball as necessary, only moving them as much as their neck and back muscles can handle, and following their lead for how comfortable they are with the different types of movements. (Don’t let them fall off the ball!) Take advantage of this opportunity to play with them, make eye contact, sing songs, and have fun!

Check out this video for a demo of different positions and movements you can do while baby is on the exercise ball (baby in video is 13 months old, is just beginning to walk independently, and is a major sensory seeker who LOVES to be upside down, FYI):

Looking for ways to play with your younger baby (say, 2-6 months) on an exercise ball during tummy time? No problem. Check out this post for ideas on how to use an exercise ball (or a beach ball, or your shins) to help your little baby actually ENJOY tummy time…now that’s a concept!

BufferShare via email

Fine Motor Fun for Babies and Toddlers

Fine Motor Play

Fine motor play is one of the most important parts of early childhood, and now that my baby boy is old enough to be interested in it, we are having fun experimenting with all sorts of fun hands-on play. He is currently obsessed (yes, obsessed!) with using his pinchy little fingers to pick up puffy poms and place them in an empty water bottle. At first he’d try and miss, and then try again and miss again, but after a minute or so of practicing his new skill, he was hooked! He seriously attended to this task for at least ten minutes straight…and the child is 12 months old! I’ve never seen a baby so focused on what seems like such a simple task – he LOVED it! And after every few poms, he’d look up at me with a huge pride-filled smile and let out a satisfied sigh. It was so cute.

Fine Motor Play

The great thing about this task is that there are lots of ways to “grade” it to make it easier or more difficult, depending on your child’s age and skill level.

Here are some ways to make it easier for beginners:

  • Use a container with a wider opening, such as a large juice bottle, cup, or bowl
  • Use larger poms (most packs include a variety of sizes)
  • Hold the container steady for baby and tilt it forward for easy access

And here are some ways to increase the challenge for older babies and toddlers:

  • Use a container with a smaller opening
  • Use smaller or thinner items such as shells, beads, coins, or smaller poms
  • Fine Motor Play Visual ScanningSpread the items out around the child so they must visually scan the floor in order to find them
  • Have the child hold the container with one hand while placing items in with the other (gotta learn how to make two hands work together!)
  • Have the child place items with their eyes closed (no peeking!)
  • Fine Motor Play Crossing MidlinePlace the items on the side that’s opposite their favorite hand so they will either have to cross over midline with their favorite hand in order to get it, or so they will use their less-preferred hand to pick it up and develop some skill (in this example, my child’s favorite hand is his left, so he has to reach to his right side)
  • Have the child place items while laying on their tummy (it challenges strength in their trunk and shoulders, which is important for furthering fine motor skills)
  • Encourage the child to try using kitchen tongs to place poms in container (great for pre-scissor and pre-writing hand skills)
  • Challenge the child to see if they can hold a few items in their palm at once and then “slide” one at a time to their fingertips as they place them in the container (these in-hand manipulation skills are also great for developing handwriting muscles)

If your little one is anything like mine, he requires very close supervision because he is still all about putting stuff in his mouth (and he’s lightning fast, too!) so PLEASE be sure to supervise your child during this activity and watch them light up as they discover new ways to use their ever-developing fine motor skills!

Fine Motor Play

BufferShare via email

5 great places to find activity ideas for kids

arts and craftsOver the course of the past two weeks I have featured five different blogs and websites that I have found to be really helpful when it comes to finding activities to do with kids. Because each site was featured one-by-one, I wanted to be sure to put all five of them together in one post so that you could have them all in once place. Cool? Okay.

So on Monday I featured No Time for Flash Cards (www.notimeforflashcards.com), a blog run by a mom/teacher that is filled with TONS of wonderful activity ideas for babies to preschoolers that are both educational and fun. Read post here.

Then on Tuesday it was all about Productive Parenting (www.productiveparenting.com), a website run by education professionals that features more productive play activities for than you can imagine for kids birth to almost-five and, the best part is, you can sign up to have them email you a “productive parenting activity of the day” for as many days of the week as you want! Read post here.

Wednesday we dove into Growing a Jeweled Rose (www.growingajeweledrose.com), a blog run by a mom who is slightly totally obsessed with engaging her young girls in messy play (the messier the better!) and sharing how they learn and have fun while playing with things that are slimy, goopy, sticky, and downright muddy. Yes, this one is even good for babies! Read post here.

Thursday brought an introduction to hands on : as we grow (www.handsonaswegrow.com), a blog run by a mom whose mission is to not only be the best “hands on” mom she can be, but to also share activity ideas in order to help other parents learn how to be more hands on with their kids, too. Amazing mission. Read post here.

And in the following week I rounded things up with a shout out to good ol’ Pinterest (www.pinterest.com), a crazy amazing website that not only helps you organize “pinboards” of all the ideas you find on the world wide web, but also allows you to follow boards of other people’s ideas and…oh yeah…it has the potential to take over your life! But, really, it’s a great resource. Maybe the best one of them all. Read post here.

Have you had a chance to check any of these sites out?

As you can see, each website offers lots of great activity ideas while placing their own unique spin on things. Don’t get overwhelmed, or feel like you have to stay up-to-date with every single one of them. Just check them out, see which one is the best fit for you, and remember to HAVE FUN!

BufferShare via email

Activity Ideas for Kids: “Productive Parenting”

This week on MamaOT we are focusing on expanding your activity repertoire so you can stock up on great ideas for how to play with the kids in your life!

Yesterday I introduced you all to a great kids’ activity blog called No Time for Flash Cards: Learning and Play for Babies, Toddlers, and Kids, which can be found at www.notimeforflashcards.com.

Today I want to introduce you to another site filled with hundreds and maybe even THOUSANDS of educational activity ideas for you do with your minis. It’s called Productive Parenting and can be found at www.productiveparenting.com.

Productive Parenting is a website (not a blog) filled with activity suggestions that have been submitted by professionals with Masters’ Degrees in Education, so you know they are developmentally appropriate activities that are, indeed, productive. You can search activities based on:

  • AGE — early/middle/late infant, early/middle/late one-year-old, early/middle/late two-year old, early/middle/late three-year-old, early/middle/late four-year-old
  • CATEGORY — daily living skills, exploring our world, fun with numbers, language/pre-reading, science adventures, sensory experiences
  • SKILLS LEARNED – attention span, balance, bilateral coordination, body awareness, cause and effect, classifying, concept development, coordination, counting concepts, creative expression, creative movement, emotional development, eye foot coordination, eye hand coordination, fine motor, grasp and release, gross motor, imagination, language development, listening, lower body strength, matching, object permanence, patterning, pre-writing, problem solving, rhythm exploration, role play, self concept, sensory development, sequencing, size and shape discrimination, smelling discrimination, social development, sorting, sound discrimination, spatial awareness, tactile stimulation, trust, upper body strength, visual development, visual discrimination, visual stimulation, visual tracking, vocabulary enrichment

Whew!

The unique thing about this website is that you can sign up to have them email you a “productive parenting” activity as many days of the week as you’d like, so you can start off your day with a bit more inspiration than that over-sized cup of coffee can give you. Very cool!

I do have two words of caution about using this website:

  1. Though all of the activities are educationally sound, I’ve found many can come across as “drill-like” (something that yesterday’s website really tries to avoid). While you shouldn’t drill your eleven-month-old on whether the stuffed bear is sitting “on top”, “next to”, or “under” the chair (a suggestion I received in my inbox the other day), those are certainly good concepts to incorporate into and emphasize in your everyday interactions with your sponge-like baby. My advice: keep the activity suggestions in the back of your mind and don’t take them so literally that you end up making learning un-fun for your little one.
  2. In the “pre-writing” skill area, there is an activity for middle one-year-olds called “Holding Crayons”. In it, they recommend giving the child thick crayons and then encouraging them to scribble while using a pincer grasp (pinching with thumb and index finger while resting crayon on middle finger). First of all, DON’T PUT THICK CRAYONS IN LITTLE HANDS! Thick crayons prevent little hands from developing the small muscles in the hands necessary for strong writing and fine motor skills. Secondly, DON’T MAKE A ONE-YEAR-OLD HOLD A CRAYON WITH A PINCER GRASP. It’s fine — actually, it’s expected — for a one-year-old to hold a crayon with a fisted grasp. Click here for an easy-to-understand image of the progression of handwriting grasp. Give kids regular crayons, trianglular crayons, or short crayons/crayons that have been broken in half (click here to read why).

Overall, Productive Parenting is a really helpful website for anyone looking for an easily accessible list of educational activities for kids under age five. It’s a great resource to help you find some favorite activities, and the fact that they can email you ideas on a daily basis is a huge plus. Check it out and let me know what you think.

Check back tomorrow to learn about a great kids’ activity blog that’s all about getting MESSY!!

BufferShare via email

Activity Ideas for Kids: “No Time for Flash Cards”

Last week I asked you to tell me what ages and topics you wanted to learn more about here on MamaOT.com. I learned that many of you are looking for play and activity ideas for your little ones. To be honest, there are TONS of blogs out there (it’s overwhelming, really) that offer a multitude of ideas for creative crafts and activities for kids. And since MamaOT is a “Tips and Tricks” blog that sometimes features activity ideas (rather than focusing on them exclusively), I thought I’d share some helpful resources for those of you looking for a creative boost. I’ve decided to devote this entire week (how lucky are you?!) to telling you about some fantastic resources out there on the world wide web that have already put together fun lists of things to do with kids of all ages!

The first website you should check out is called No Time for Flash Cards: Learning and Play for Babies, Toddlers, and Kids. It can be accessed at www.notimeforflashcards.com.

No Time for Flash Cards (or NTFFC for short) is a fun blog that features tons of activity ideas for babies, toddlers, and kids. It has been around since 2008 and is run by a teacher/mom who loves to help other parents. You can search for activities based on:

  • AGE — infant, toddler (1-3), preschool (3-5), school-age (5+), big kid and parents (8+)
  • CRAFT — by theme and by age
  • ACTIVITY TYPE — cooking, fine motor, gross motor, math, pretend play, science, sensory, and songs

The philosophy of NTFFC is to make learning fun at home and in school…without the flashcards!

As a pediatric occupational therapist, I think the NTFFC blog is a great place to start for those who are looking for activity ideas that will engage kids’ brains and bodies without making them feel like they’re being “drilled”. The blog’s writers have backgrounds in literature, education, and crafting, so those are the kinds of ideas you’ll encounter. Though it’s not a site geared specifically toward reaching developmental milestones or sharing how to playfully work toward specific age-appropriate skills (such as fine motor milestones or handwriting development), I think you’ll find the ideas on NTFFC useful and practical, especially the page that outlines basic must-have craft supplies.

Here are some examples of activities featured on NTFFC (click on title for link to activity):

I hope you’ll stop by No Time for Flash Cards and try out some of the many fun ideas it has in store for you. Hopefully you’ll discover some new favorites. Let me know what you think of it!

Tomorrow I will be sharing another website I like that is filled with hundreds (maybe even THOUSANDS) of activity ideas for parents and kids to do together. Be sure to come back to check it out or, better yet, subscribe to MamaOT so you don’t miss out on future posts. See you tomorrow!

BufferShare via email

7 of the best toys for toddlers

In my last post I shared with you 15 toys for baby’s first year. Babies are great and all, but now it’s time to talk about toddlers!

I’ll be honest, this post was a little trickier because kids’ abilities and interests become even more varied at this age, so it’s difficult to put together a definitive list of toys. So rather than share specific toys that toddlers may find appealing (that list would be waaaay too long), I’m going to share with you seven categories of toys that will be sure to entertain them while also challenging their skills and encouraging their development in areas such as fine motor, gross motor, cognitive, language comprehension & expression, social emotional, self-help, and sensory-motor.

As mentioned in my last post, you don’t always have to go out of your way to purchase toys. Many of the best ones can be found right in your own home. However, if what you’re looking for is some direction in your toy-buying, then you’ve come to the right place.

Here are seven of the best toys for toddlers (ages 1-3):

1. Toys that encourage problem-solving and fine motor skills.
Shape SorterProblem solving and fine motor skills often go hand-in-hand…literally. Kids — especially toddlers — learn through hands-on experience and need to be given the chance to figure things out on their own (within reason, of course) in order to promote higher level cognitive and motor skills later on. Some examples include shape sorters, large Duplo blocks, blocks for stacking and balancing, pegboards, basic puzzles with knobs (animals, shapes, vehicles, etc.), and play dough with accessories. Don’t forget that the development of fine motor skills also requires activities that will strengthen kids’ hands, so go for products that will challenge fine motor strength such as those that involve tongs, tweezers, or scissors for snipping (such as play dough scissors). Safety first: avoid choking hazards.

2. Toys that encourage interaction with vertical surfaces.
BañeraInteraction with vertical surfaces encourages kids’ wrists to bend upwards into extension, which is a pre-requisite for skilled handwriting (and typing). It also strengthens their shoulder girdle area, which is where the majority of their fine motor power will come from as their hands begin to develop the ability to scribble, color, and draw. After that, they will really need those strong arms to be able to support their rapidly advancing fine motor and writing skills. Depending on their age, consider toys such as play cubes, bath tub crayons, foam bath toys, dry-erase crayons (my absolute favorite!) magnets, or easels. Use chalkboard paint  or chalkboard contact paper to turn practically any vertical space into a chalk-friendly surface. Or easily make your own vertical surface simply by tipping a puzzle upright, taping coloring paper to the wall, or tilting a baking sheet vertically in order to encourage magnet play.

3. Toys that kids can ride.
Stalled TricycleForget the battery-powered Barbie/Spiderman Jeep. I’m talking about ride-on toys that allow kids to propel themselves. Remember those old-school Little Tikes cars that kids would sit in and use their feet to “drive” themselves? Those are awesome. So are other ride-on toys without pedals, tricycles, sit & spin toys, inflatable hopping horses, and scooter boards. (Click here for 10 fun scooter board activities such as body bowling!). Just as skilled hands require strong arms and shoulders to support them, they also require a strong and stable core. Strong hands are no good if they aren’t supported by a stable base, and ride-on toys such as these encourage the development of a strong, coordinated, stable base. Oh yeah, and they’re fun, too!

4. Toys that encourage both hands to work together.
Potato Head - March 2nd, 2011
Before kids can succeed in tasks such as skilled writing, coloring, or cutting, they need to be able to use both hands together well. Their hands can be doing the same thing at the same time (tossing and catching a ball, pushing and pulling pop beads), or one hand can be stabilizing an object while the other manipulates (velcro ball mitts, Potato Headlarge lacing beads, wind-up toys, toys with zippers or snaps). Though there will be some overlap with the toys from Point One (that encourage problem-solving and fine motor skills), these toys are unique in that they pretty much require the use of two hands in order to successfully operate them, and they are just as important.

5. Toys that encourage pretend play.
Somebody's toy kitchenThe toddler years are the golden years of creativity. Embrace them! Toddlers can pretend with just about anything, even if it’s not meant to be a toy. If you’re looking to make a purchase, encourage imaginary play with goodies such as pretend food (especially the kind you can “cut” apart with a plastic knife), kitchen sets, dress-up clothes (don’t look too far!), baby dolls (for girls and boys), stuffed or plastic animals, and toddler-sized brooms, doll strollers, or shopping carts. Have a few basics on hand, and leave the rest to your child’s ever-growing imagination!

6. Toys that feel “weird”.
Yogurt = finger paint!Toddlers learn best when they can use all their senses. Additionally, it’s important for kiddos to be able to tolerate and interact with substances of all kinds of textures, from wet and slimy, to scratchy and bumpy, and everything in between. In general, the more toddlers can use their hands to interact with “weird” sensations early on, the more likely they will be able to tolerate various textures of foods in their mouths (thus alleviating some stress related to picky eating behaviors). Think about it: if you wouldn’t touch certain textures with your hands, why would you put them in your mouth? Some examples include playing with shaving or whipped cream, play dough, glow-in-the-dark slime, simple cornstarch/water mixture, flubbercooked spaghetti, bucket of dry beans/pasta/rice (find hidden toys like puzzle pieces or lacing beads in them), (squeezable) sidewalk chalk, (edible) finger paint, bubble wrap, floamcloud dough, and sand. Whew! Though these aren’t really “toys” per se, I really felt they needed to be included because of how important they are for kids’ developing bodies and brains. Buy them or make many of them yourself. Or better yet, have your toddler help you make them!

7. Books.
Kids and Reading It’s never too early to introduce children to books. Kids who are read to from an early age are more likely to become good readers and achieve academic success than those who aren’t read to on a regular basis, regardless of socioeconomic status. But it’s not enough to simply read books to kids. Little ones who become the most successful in reading and academics in late elementary school and beyond are the ones whose caregivers involved them in story time and made it interactive. Point out pictures and words, ask questions about what will happen next, clarify unfamiliar words to develop vocabulary, and check for understanding to develop comprehension. Look for engaging books that encourage rhythm, rhyming, repetition, matching, and/or identification of objects (animals, vehicles, body parts, shapes, colors, numbers, etc.). Give kids chances to improve their fine motor and hand-eye coordination skills by allowing them to turn the pages one by one, and help their imagination run wild as you narrate the story with unique character voices. Just wait: by the time your toddler is three years old, she’ll probably be “reading” and performing many of her favorites stories for you!

For more toddler play ideas, check out The Toddler’s Busy Book: 365 Creative Games and Activities to Keep your 1 1/2- to 3-Year-Old Busy. It’s a real treat.

I hope you keep these seven categories in mind and share them with others as you enjoy (or at least survive) the energetic, exhausting, imaginative toddler years!

[Update: Be sure to check out my post about 10 of the best toys and games for preschoolers!]

BufferShare via email

Don’t let your own fears get in the way of your kids’ experiences

You don’t realize the extent of your own fears until you have kids.

Here’s a true story:

This morning I took my 10-month-old son to the nearby duckie pond. It’s one of our family’s favorite places and, now that he is old enough to interact with his environment, we love to bring bread with us so we can feed the ducks. Well, it’s mostly us parents who feed the ducks while the baby watches and, when he’s feeling especially courageous, chases after them on hands and knees.

As I lured the ducks near our blanket (and my precious baby) with the promise of free bread, I felt my heart begin to pound in my chest. They closed in on us as they waddled closer and closer and, suddenly, I realized I was a little bit afraid. What?! I thought. They’re just ducks. Yes, they’re just ducks. But they’re also animals. Animals are unpredictable. They are fast and they want my food and they bite…even if they don’t have teeth.

The greatest moment of fear came when my grabby baby pulled an entire piece of bread out of my hand and, doing as babies do, tossed it on the ground next to him. Nooooo! I shouted in my head. The ducks will come after you! Before I knew it, the dominant male of the group swiftly waddled over and prepared to battle my baby for the bread. Eek!

I pulled my crawler back to our blanket and secured the bread so we could continue to share the wealth with the fifty or so other ducks around the pond. They finished off the bread and we played on the grass for a few more minutes before packing up the stroller and heading home for the baby’s morning nap.

Silly story about a crazy mom, right?

Here’s the lesson I’m learning:

Don’t let your own fears and issues get in the way of what you allow your child to experience.

Just because you’re afraid of crowds doesn’t mean you should keep your kids away from places where people congregate.

Just because you don’t like heights doesn’t mean you should forbid your child from riding the Ferris wheel at the fair.

Just because you have sensory issues and don’t like things that are slimy or scratchy or noisy doesn’t mean you should prevent your kid from being able to dig his hands in his spaghetti, bury her feet in the sand, or run around with the barking dogs.

And just because you’re uncomfortable around a swarm of ducks doesn’t mean you should avoid bringing bread to the duckie pond.

Are you getting my drift?

Yes, of course, we are responsible for teaching our kids about safety and strangers and choking hazards and poisonous things. That’s part of our job as parents. But the minute we let our own fears get in the way of allowing our kids to explore and learn and take risks that we may not want to take ourselves…well…that’s when we need to take a step back and assess whether or not that’s really the kind of parent we want to be.

If there are things that really bother or upset you (sounds, smells, motion sickness, social situations, etc.), then allow your kids to experience those things with someone else. It’s okay to delegate. Don’t feel like you have to confront every single one of your fears or aversions just because you’re a parent.

But if you see the world through your child’s eyes and are open to new experiences…

If you put your fears and issues aside and look at it from their perspective…

If you take the lead and guide them through adventures you never thought you’d open yourself up to…

then you might just be surprised at what you find.

You may find that you’re stronger than you thought.

Better than you thought.

Braver than you thought.

You may just find you’re a better parent than you thought.

And it’s all because you brought bread to the duckie pond.

 

BufferShare via email

Tips for helping you attune to your child {Guest Post}

Yesterday, Mama OT welcomed its first guest writer, Connor McClenahan. In his initial post, Connor explained why parent-child attachment “is arguably the most important task of parenting”, and how you can facilitate this attachment by “attuning” to your child’s needs and emotions. If you have not yet read Connor’s first post, STOP what you’re doing and READ it. Right now. You’ll be glad you did. (Read here).

In this next post, Connor presents two simple activities you can practice with your child and explains the skills he or she will develop as a result. These “drills” are meant to help you develop your ability to attune to your child which, as mentioned yesterday, is an important contributor to the development of attachment. So without further ado…

. . . . .

1) The Dance of Engagement

With baby: You’ll notice when you’re engaging with your baby that there are moments when she turns away. Let her turn away and don’t try to grab her attention. Wait for her to turn back to you, then welcome her with a smile. She’ll do this often as a way to self-regulate (to not get too overwhelmed by excitement).

With toddler: The same thing applies when your child starts to crawl. When she crawls away, be ready for her to turn her head to see if you’re still there – then welcome her with a smile!

Relational skill developed: “I don’t have to pull away from relationships or constantly engage – others are not demanding, nor neglecting. They let me be who I am.”

Self-skill developed: “I can do things on my own! I can be by myself and I can enter relationships without being anxious about anyone’s agenda for me.”

2) Follow The Child’s Lead

With baby: When baby is engaged with you, simply copy all facial expressions and sounds he makes as he does them! [Editor's note: Imitating baby's expressions and sounds is helpful not only for facilitating attachment, but also for developing his language and communication skills. What a deal!]

With toddler: When you are playing with him, follow his lead. Act as an assistant and promoter to his ideas and imagination, not yours! Do what he wants to do. Find enjoyment in his imagination!

Relational skill developed: “I am not eclipsed or neglected by others. Being intimate with another person is good and fun – life is better when shared with another.”

Self-skill developed: “My thoughts and my ideas are good and important! I am valuable, and the things I do are valuable”.

. . . . .

Connor McClenahan is a graduate student in clinical psychology at Fuller School of Psychology in Pasadena, CA. He lives in Montrose with his wife, Sherianne, and his 3-month-old son, Aidan. His favorite occupations include cycling, spending time outdoors, and helping with his wife’s awesome youth group.

For more information on attachment parenting, please visit http://attachmentparenting.org.

BufferShare via email