Have you ever found yourself working with or caring for a child who becomes so overstimulated or upset that nothing seems to help them calm down?
While there are many whole-body sensory calming strategies that can be used to help kids calm and regulate their bodies, they aren’t always available or effective in certain contexts. Wouldn’t it be nice if, when your kid is having a meltdown in the car, grocery store, classroom, Grandma’s house, or even your own house, you had a go-to sensory tool you could provide to help him or her calm down?
Enter the “Calm Down” Bottle.
Calm Down Bottles from My Crazy Blessed Life
Just as newborns (especially premies) learn to regulate their breathing, heart rate, and body temperature through an outside source (i.e., skin-to-skin contact with their new parent), older kids often require an outside source in order to learn how to regulate their physiological and emotional responses to stressors.
In OT we call this “learning to self-regulate”. Some common self-regulation strategies preschool-aged kids (or older) can use to successfully calm themselves include deep breathing, wrapping themselves tightly in a blanket, self-massage or “dots and squeezies” up the hands and arms, wall push-ups, rocking in a rocking chair, swinging on a park swing, retreating to a dark, quiet space, laying on or under a beanbag chair, and so much more.
Most toddlers and preschoolers (and even older kiddos) are not able to self-regulate and often require some sort of instruction or model for how to respond to emotional- or sensory-based stressors. This is especially true for many children with autism and sensory processing difficulties. These kiddos often require co-regulation, which means regulation strategies must be initiated or demonstrated by another person. (Side note: Family pets such as dogs tend to be wonderful co-regulators for children, especially those with autism. Some are even trained as therapy dogs for that specific purpose.)
From an OT perspective, these Calm Down Bottles are a nice tool for helping kids transition from co-regulation to self-regulation.
If a child is so upset she cannot be consoled or engaged in other calming activities (like she doesn’t want to be touched, hugged, or talked to), these Calm Down Bottles can serve as a visual “anchor” in order to bring her focus into one place when it may feel like her world is spinning out of control. She can shake the bottle as hard as she wants (so don’t use a glass bottle), and this provides calming proprioceptive input to her body while also serving as a physical outlet that is less destructive than hitting or kicking. While she holds the bottle and watches the glitter fall, her hands and eyes are brought to midline and this can help organize and center her nervous system as well. And as her heart pounds and she demonstrates fast, shallow breathing from being so upset, the slow fall of the shaken glitter can serve as a visual model that, often unconsciously, can slow her heart rate and respiration.
At first the use of a Calm Down Bottle will likely need to be initiated by the adult. As with most calming strategies, it should be introduced to the child before she is ever upset so she knows what it is and how it works. Additionally, it will likely be the most effective when given to the child before she completely escalates and is totally inconsolable. Most calming strategies will be most effective when implemented before kids get to that “point of no return”. Shake up the bottle, hand it to the child, and see what she does. If, after repeated introductions, you find the Calm Down Bottle is an effective tool (like this mom, this mom, and this mom did), then it’s possible you’ve found something to help your kiddo transition to self-regulation!
Calm Down Bottle in action, from In Lieu of Preschool
The transition to self-regulation occurs when your child initiates use of the Calm Down Bottle as a self-calming tool. This may mean she asks for it or just goes and gets it herself when she starts to feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, or upset. You will have to be the judge of whether she needs to be left alone or if, after a certain number of minutes, you can sit with her in order to be a part of the calming process by talking to her about her feelings, using additional calming strategies, or simply just being there with her.
I remember learning in school that it takes the human body about 20 minutes to fully calm down after becoming upset or excited. Basically, it takes that long for the body to “call off the attack” and return itself to its original, non-stressed state. So keep this in mind when watching or helping your child recover from a stressful episode, whether it was due to sensory overload or an emotional breakdown.
Calm Down Bottles are really easy to make. Click here to find out how.
You can even have your child help you make the bottle. By involving her in the process she can develop some ownership over it, plus she also gets to practice some fine motor strengthening and hand-eye coordination as she squeezes the glue and sprinkles the glitter in the bottle!
Have you ever seen or used a Calm Down Bottle? Got any tips you’d like to share?